Who Died and Made You King of Anything?

From Sara Bareilles' single "King of Anything"

I hate to break it to you babe, but I’m not drowning
There’s no one here to save

Who cares if you disagree?
You are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be?
Who died and made you king of anything?

You sound so innocent, all full of good intent
Swear you know best
But you expect me to jump up on board with you
And ride off into your delusional sunset

This song has so much truth to it. And lately, I've been obsessed with it. And by lately, I mean since last night when I realized I didn't have her new CD. After listening to this song all day (it's catchy, upbeat, and SO true to life that I can barely stand it) I realize I love it even more than before. And I want to share that with the rest of you:

If this fails fantastically, it's because when it comes to anything more complicated than a simple post, I'm lost. Hah.

But the reason I like this song, and the lines I picked out in particular earlier, is that it shows a much more realistic version of how some women are. We are not all damsels in distress. Not all of us need a prince charming to save us. Sometimes, we need it a little bit more, but for the most part, we don't all need saving. I would like to think that I belong to this group. I'm fiercely independent. I date people because I want to, not because I need a guy in my life. If things don't work out, for the most part I can move on pretty easily. Sometimes things work, and sometimes they probably should have never begun in the first place. Not saying that I'm completely heartless, but more realistic in my view of relationships. Or, I have started to become moreso as I've gotten older. At this point in my life, I'm not looking for forever. That will come eventually. I can't promise forever to anyone right now. There are too many things in my life that prohibit that: my post-grad plans, my career goals, things I want to do before settling down with anyone. In my first relationship, I was told something that I now use as my go-to answer: "I can't promise you I'll be yours forever, but I'll be yours for as long as we both make each other happy". I feel like this is a fair representation. But this has gone far enough into a tangent that should be saved for another post entirely.

Back to Ms. Bareilles and her smashing single. I love this song. It's powerful, it makes me walk with a little swing to my step, and it reminds me that I don't have to conform to what any guy tells me or fall for his charm...unless I want to of course ;)

As always,

Lex